The Compass of Shame
Key Points
The wince of shame is, at first, a physical experience of loss of tonicity and dropping away from connection.
Because shame is so difficult to bear, we often move quickly to a different response.
When we recognize our behavioral response to shame, it's a clue to go back and repair a disconnection.
Shame is very much talked about in current popular culture. Yet, many of my clients are still unaware when shame is the emotion that has hit them. This is because we don’t stay with the initial zing of shame for long; the toxic feeling of it makes us want to move quickly away from it.
