Start Finding Authentic Connections After Complex PTSD
Key points
The desire of so many adults who still manage Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) is for a sense of authentic belonging.
Stepping into relationships can feel fraught, particularly when people don’t believe they have any idea of what “healthy” looks like.
Most people had other adults — "helping witnesses" — who gave them an idea of love, kindness and respect.
Identifying your "helping witnesses" and what they taught you can help you begin to define nourishing relationships in the present.
When we begin to search out new and nurturing relationships, there can be much trial and error. Often it means tolerating the alone space that comes when we first leave damaging relationships. It might mean tolerating what can feel like boredom when a relationship is healthy and calm. And, it involves beginning to define, recognize and choose safe others to relate to, whether friends, family or romantic interests.
